Church and Chapel
Hmong Family Funeral Services
Dedicated to serving the Hmong and Asian Communities...
And honoring their family funeral traditions.
414-313-0061 or 414-708-4703
The Hmong people are an Asian ethnic group originating from the mountains of , and migrating into the Southeast Asian region of and . In the 1960s and the 1970s, the American CIA recruited the Hmong people in their efforts to stop the supply of weapons along the Ho Chi Minh Trail during the Vietnam War. When the Americans pulled out of the war, communist efforts to exterminate the Hmong people in led to a wave of Hmong refugees to resettle into , and eventually around the world including the . Currently, Wisconsin houses the third largest Hmong population in the U.S after California and Minnesota.
Hmong Funeral Customs and Tradition
Traditional Hmong funeral ceremonies are not only a process of mourning the passing of a loved one, but also combines customs and practices that help guide the soul of the dead back to their ancestors in the spirit world. The deceased is dressed in traditional Hmong clothing and family members also place additional clothing items into their casket. In the traditional three-day long ceremony lasting up to 24 hours in one day, the burning of money and incenses, the beating of a traditional Hmong drum, and the sacrificial animal ceremony all take place in this important tradition to guide the soul of the decease. Music from a traditional Hmong flute known as the "qeej" is also played.
For Hmong people who have converted to Christianity, the process of mourning is still a three-day long affair. However, church services are held throughout the day to remember the life of the deceased.
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A funeral represents a purposeful opportunity to reflect on the meaning of a life that has been lived and to determine the impact of that meaning for the family and friends. There is no single proper funeral service. It is a time for human sharing in its deepest sense. You and the ones you love are at the very center of the process, and the choices you make will determine its significance for you. As you participate in the planning of the funeral service, you help create a meaningful experience for everyone. It is the goal of Hmong Family Funeral Services to help people complete the relationship with the one who has died and to provide a climate that encourages each person to give and receive emotional support. During the funeral service, family and friends have the opportunity to relate to each other at the deepest levels and find mutual strength.
Personalizing Your Funeral Services
We appreciate, celebrate and acknowledge that every family we serve is unique. Paramount to our staff, in working with you, is making your loved one's service a personal tribute to the life that has been lived. We provide a wide variety of choices that will help fulfill your family's wishes, from a traditional funeral to a personalized service that celebrates a loved one's hobbies and interests, to a combination of both approaches. Nor Yang and Xay Xiong will work with you in planning a funeral service reflective of both your loved one and your family.
Here are some ideas you may want to use in personalizing a service:
- DVD slideshow memorial tribute
- Various displays of personal memorabilia depicting a life lived, i.e., awards, trophies, uniforms, equipment, religious items, favorite pastime items (such as gardening tools, fishing gear, sewing, baking, deck of playing cards, etc.)
- Photographic collages
- Balloon or dove release
- Live musicians
- Service folder and registry books reflecting personal style and interests
- Writing of personal notes, memories, stories by family and friends during the service
- Creating a collection of music to be played during the visitation
- Making available to visitors a small life symbol to take with them (i.e. golf ball, lapel pin, special prayer, favorite poem, recipe, candy bar, cookies, etc.)
- Customs particular to various faith traditions, ethnic groups, and fraternal organizations
There are so many ways to personalize a funeral service and they are only limited by the person lived. Nor is committed to helping you create a special tribute that will appropriately honor the life of your loved one. We encourage you to share your ideas, customs and wishes with her.
Cremation As An Option
Choosing cremation neither eliminates nor does it require a funeral service. Traditional or contemporary services are often planned before or after the cremation process. A funeral service followed by cremation may be exactly the same as a funeral service followed by ground burial. They can be elaborate or simple and traditional or nontraditional. Arrangements and ceremonies tend to be as individual as the persons for whom and by whom they are made. They may be personalized specifically to reflect the life of the deceased, and thus have a special meaning. Hmong Family Funeral Services are able to assist in any and all of your Funeral Service needs. To obtain more information on funeral services call Nor Yang at 414-313-0061.
Complete Funeral Service With Cremation will be just like a Complete Funeral Service except cremation will follow instead of the funeral burial. This can be accommodated by the use of a cremation casket (casket that is designed to be cremated) or the use of a solid maple wood rental casket. Following the viewing, service or ceremony, and eventual cremation, the cremated remains can be buried, properly scattered, or returned to the family for safe keeping. Urns are used to hold the cremated remains. Urns can be constructed out of basic materials like cardboard or plastic, or constructed out of more protective materials like basic and semi-precious metals, ceramics, and woods.
Memorial Service With Life Celebration can be arranged as a memorial service at the church, funeral home or other lcoation. A Memorial Service is one where the body is not present. We recommend that if you select a memorial service that you are allowed a time, if possible, to privately view the body as a family. Viewing of the deceased is a very important step in acknowledging that the death has occurred. Having some type of service or ceremony is also a key ingredient to a healthy recovery of a loss due to a death.
Basic Cremation Without Services refers to a cremation being provided, while limiting funeral services to the removal and transportation of the deceased into our care.
Memorialization provides a permanent, secure place for cremated remains to be placed, and for family members and descendants to honor the lives of the deceased. Cremation allows families many choices for memorializing a loved one. Some families choose to keep the cremated remains with them at home, or to scatter the remains over land or water. Hmong Family Funeral Services allows the following memorialization options, among others, for cremated remains:
OUTDOOR NICHES - The cremated remains of your loved ones may be safely held in one of our many above ground columbarium niches.
SCATTERING - Your loved one's remains may be scattered freely within a dedicated, natural environment. There are also certain services which offer scattering among the sea or the stars.
TRADITIONAL BURIAL - In ground burial on a family plot. Urns may be buried at the head or foot of a grave site.
PERSONALIZED MEMORIALIZATION - Inscribe your family member's name and a special saying on a tree plaque, park bench or other special memorial. We also have custom, unique urns and keepsakes, perfect for displaying inside your home.
Important Cremation Guidelines
It is our intent to serve your family with dignified service as to your request. We have listed items that your family may wish to consider when selecting cremation as the final form of disposition. Many families may wish for a traditional funeral including public viewing and/or funeral service, with cremation selected as the form of final disposition after the public or private funeral.
1. The State of Wisconsin requires a 48 hour waiting period between the time of passing and cremation.
2. A cremation permit is issued by the Medical Examiner from the county of death. There is usually a fee from that county for this permit.
3. The Medical Examiner's office may require a physical viewing of the deceased prior to issuing a cremation permit. Milwaukee and Waukesha County Medical Examiner's offices require their viewing.
4. A death certificate needs to be produced and signed by the pronouncing physician prior to requesting a cremation permit.
5. Should you desire the cremated remains be present for a planned memorial service, please be aware that between 4-6 business days are typically required to process and complete the paperwork, obtain a cremation permit, and carry out the cremation. Of course, you may have a memorial service without the cremated remains present or with an urn that does not contain the cremated remains.
6. An authorization for our funeral service and the crematory is necessary to cremate human remains. This form is signed by the authorizing agent who is the legal next of kin for the deceased.
- A. If there are multiple legal next of kin, we request they all sign this authorizing statement or give written permission for a legal next of kin to serve as authorizing agent.
- B. It is the responsibility of the authorizing agent to obtain any and all signatures from legal next of kin within a very prompt time frame with the intent not to exceed 5 business days to obtain signatures. Fax signatures are accepted and they do not need to be notarized.
- C. Should a legal next of kin not be able to be reached, the authorizing agent will need to initial that all reasonable efforts were made to contact that person(s) and that they would not object to the cremation of the decedent's remains.
- D. Should any legal next of kin object to the cremation of the decedent's remains, the cremation process will not take place.
7. Because a power of attorney ceases upon death, a person holding a power of attorney from the deceased cannot authorize cremation based upon that power of attorney.
8. The remains of the deceased will be placed in a refrigeration room until cremated. There will be a fee for refrigeration.
9. Embalming is not required for cremation unless there is to be a visitation or funeral ceremony with the body present. Normally, refrigeration is sufficient to preserve an unembalmed body until cremation can be arranged. If refrigeration is not sufficient to prevent decomposition, we may ask for permission to embalm the body or to perform invasive cavity injections to assist preserving the body until cremation.
10. The remains of the deceased will be cremated in a combustible casket or alternative container that is suitable for the cremation process.
11. On the cremation authorization form, the legal next-of-kin must provide instructions as to who shall receive the cremated remains and whether they are to be shipped, delivered, or pick-up. If cremated remains are not retrieved by the legal next-of-kin or his or her designee within 45 days after the cremation, the cremated remains may be interred at a local cemetery. All costs of the interment and any subsequent disinterment will be the responsibility of the individual signing the authorization form.
12. Our firm does not require immediate family members to view and identify their loved ones prior to cremation with the family members or agent accepting the medical examiner identifying their loved one. Should the family wish to schedule a private viewing at our Brookfield location (1875 N. Calhoun Rd.) they are certainly welcome to do so. Appointment times can be accommodated from 9-4. Viewings are subject to our private chapel fee and should not exceed 1 hour.